Daily
Reflections reading June 23rd
Trusting Others
But
does trust require that we be blind to other people’s motives or, indeed, to
our own? Not at all; this would be folly. Most certainly, we should assess the capacity
for harm as well as the capability for good in every person that we would
trust. Such a private inventory can reveal the degree of confidence we should
extend in any given situation. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 144
I
am not a victim of others, but rather a victim of my expectations, choices and
dishonesty. When I expect others to be what I want them to be and not who they
are, when they fail to meet my expectations, I am hurt. When my choices are
based on self-centeredness, I find I am lonely and distrustful. I gain
confidence in myself, however, when I practice honesty in all my affairs. When
I search my motives and am honest and trusting, I am aware of the capacity for
harm in situations and can avoid those that are harmful.
© Alcoholics Anonymous World Services
My
thoughts on June 23rd Reading
Never had a problem with trusting in my own lies it was in
trusting others I had the problem, but then they all had a problem trusting me
too, guess what goes around does comes around
Got as good as I gave, thank God that I have the program and
had a good sponsor to help me to find out when I was lying to myself, never mind
all the lies I told others just because I needed to have them like me
You know the saying TRUST ME right some of them did and are
still sorry they believed me when I told my lies to them, well today because of
this program I can be trusted because I have become trust worthy
My sponsor said if you want to be trusted, become
trustworthy, if you want to be treated with honor, then you have to be come
honorable, if you want to be respected then become respectable
This was all simple to say, but when you have lived in lies
all your life, it is very hard to do, the long and short of it is I had to
learn not only how to trust others, but to trust in myself
Now wouldn't you know it my step-son is just like I was when
I was out drinking this is even more strange because he never met me until
after I had sobered up, guess its not always the apple falling from the tree
that causes unacceptable behaviors
Some time its the drugs and booze we put into our systems
that causes us to act out thank God I had a program that taught me people do
lie a lot to manipulate others today I do not have to react to them, but act
upon my knowledge of the disease
Most important is that I can and do trust in God today, what
a relief it was to not have to lie, what a relief it is to be able to know and
tell the truth and not have to remember a lie, trusting God is second nature to
me today
But I had a hard time in the beginning to accept Him and
trust in Him, after all that old God was vengeful and condemning, but when I
found this loving forgiven God in this program I began to pray to Him
People told me to just give Him lip service till you come to
believe in him, most of the time I don't know what to do that’s why I trusted
in God, He always knows what I should do and He lets me know thru other people who
have been there
God bless you Al M
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