Daily Reflections reading
September 26th
Our Children
The alcoholic may find it
hard to re-establish friendly relations with his children. . . . In time they
will see that he is a new man and in their own way they will let him know it. .
. . From that point on, progress will be rapid. Marvelous results often follow
such a reunion. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS,
p. 134
While on the road to recovery I received a gift that could not be purchased. It was a card from my son in college, saying, “Dad, you can’t imagine how glad I am that everything is okay. Happy Birthday, I love you.” My son had told me that he loved me before. It had been during the previous Christmas holidays, when he had said to me, while crying, “Dad, I love you! Can’t you see what you’re doing to yourself?” I couldn’t. Choked with emotion, I had cried, but this time, when I received my son’s card, my tears were tears of joy, not desperation.
© Alcoholics Anonymous World Services
My thoughts on September 26th Reading
I never thought about this before, but
now I can see it, the only thing my ex and I had in common was sex I had no
problem when I sobered up, but that’s only because I did take that year they
all talked about in meeting one year to find yourself before getting into a
relationship
I found that I had a real relationship
with my kids, because they became a big part of my new life I became a real
father to them, listen to them, and shared in their lives, thank God their
young minds were far more forgiven than most of the adults in my life
I became a father to them, instead of
ruling over there little lives, they were five and eight when I sobered up, it
was not until I had a spiritual experience, I started to share my new found God
with them and what He was now doing for me
Children seem to better understand
unconditional love, mainly because they always gave it and were not corrupted
by society, my kids felt this new love I had for them right away, we used to
lay on the bed and talk about how I had changed
How God has given us a second chance at
being together, we became best friends in early recovery but my son who I had
adopted thought all along my wife and I would get back together and we could
all be a family again
He got angry after a few years when we
did not get back together, we have had a some what strained relationship after
that, a lot happened and was said to him in this period, I can’t go into all
that with out taken my ex wife's inventory so enough said
I remember taken the kids camping and
laying out in a field looking up at the stars I pointed out the north star, I
told them simply that is God looking down upon us, Then they asked me to tell
them the story of how God had come down and reached into that deep hole
I dug myself into, how I had walked
around in circles trying different things to be a better person, but I was just
walking in circles digging this hole bigger and bigger not once looking up to
see what I had done until God reached down and gave me His hand He pulled me
out of the hole
First Things First, Live and Let Live,
Easy Does It, these are the slogans I most remembered in my early sobriety,
they are a fantastic way to live my life today, my recovery was slow because I
wanted to get sober just to get my wife and kids back
I guess at that time I wanted to shout it
from the roof tops, there is a God and he has saved my from a life of self
destruction, I was going to save the world, I did see that I had a distorted
way of looking at this new found faith, but also saw it was one sided at that
time
After all I was the one who had this
white light spiritual experience, not my family, I needed balance in my ways, a
spiritual life that does not include family may not be so perfect, but I
started to share my spiritual experience with my children
Today I have a wonderful family,
beautiful life, with my angel Sandy, we have watch our kids grow up with us
both being sober, we have a fantastic relationship, we are truly bless by God,
the AA, and the fellowship has taught us about ourselves
God Bless Al M
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